Many couples find themselves in a marriage that is less than satisfying but want to preserve and improve the marriage for their own sake as well as children. In a situation like this marriage coaching is often helpful. Coaching assumes you are already doing some things well and just want to do better. The aim is to maximize performance and get the most out of your marriage. For many this is not just a matter of improving communication, although this does help. More important is learning how to nurture your relationship and find creative ways to solve problems. As a physician coach, Dr. Hudson developed his skills as a therapist but today acts more as a facilitator and educator helping couples reach their full potential. The emphasis is shifted from a focus on the past to one focussed on the future. The goal is to help couples actualize their own vision of what they want to be and re-ignite the affection and love that was present when they first married. Marital coaching is helpful for couples preparing for marriage, especially a second or third marriage, who want to do everything they can to prevent problems and build a healthy relationship. In our society around two out of three first marriages are unsuccessful and three out of four second marriages fail. With couples coaching before and during a marriage you can do something to enrich your relationship and increase the odds of a long and loving relationship. No one goes into a marriage expecting to get a divorce so do not let it happen to you. Dr. Hudson has experience with a range of assessments suitable for couple coaching including the DiSC profile.
Patrick A. Hudson, MD, FACS, BCC
Board Certified Coach providing confidential, one-on-one coaching for doctors
Marriage & Couple Coaching
It is not true that doctors have a higher divorce rate than the general population, but they are often less happy in their marriages. A recent study showed that "divorce among physicians is less common than among non-healthcare workers and several health professions”. Women doctors do have a higher prevalence of divorce than male physicians, possibly due to the effect of the hours worked.
Marital difficulties can increase the possibility of career dissatisfaction and burnout and increases the risk that physicians and their spouses will experience depression, drug abuse, suicide, alcoholism, and other emotional and psychiatric problems. Physicians and their spouse or partner also experience the issues that any couple can experience, like sexual dysfunction or communication problems. In addition, they must cope with the stress imposed by the modern practice of medicine.
When physicians and their partners are not getting along, everyone suffers and the result can be devastating. It is sometimes assumed that physicians long work hours cause marital problems but the truth is that their excessive work is often caused by their desire to escape troubles at home. Marital difficulties often increase career dissatisfaction and burnout which in turn can lead to depression, anxiety and excessive use of alcohol or other drugs.
Questions you may have
Can marriage coaching help?
What if we need a lot of help right away?
Coaching for Physicians also offers intensive marathon coaching for individual couples. We can schedule appointments for Marathon coaching either at Dr. Hudson’s farm in Cedar Grove, Santa Fe, NM or his uptown office location in Albuquerque. For an additional fee and expenses, Dr. Hudson will come to you and provide one-on-one, confidential marathon coaching intensives in your home, office or other location. In marathon coaching individuals meet one-on-one with Dr. Hudson for 5 hours a day and for 1-3 consecutive days and stay overnight at a nearby hotel or bed and breakfast (we can help you make arrangements).Each individual or couple has a unique schedule that is worked out in advance. Marathon coaching is especially useful for physician clients who cannot attend weekly coaching sessions and need to travel from distant locations. It provides a brief, intensive and focused approach to your coaching issues and is designed to help you learn new skills in less time.
Is Dr. Hudson experienced and well trained?
Dr. Hudson is available for marriage, relationship and couple coaching for physicians and their families. He has special expertise in working with physicians and their partners. Before opening his office for coaching he had over 30 years experience in medicine and mental health counseling and he is uniquely qualified to help physicians. He has special certification and training in the management of anger and completed Level I Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and has extensive experience as a marriage therapist. He is the only physician authorized as a Gottman Seven Principles Program Educator.